A small story:
A man was walking past a cemetery one day when he heard a loud cry from inside.
He felt obliged to stop by and see if he could offer help. He walked in and saw a man crying loudly near a tombstone.
He was repeatedly saying, “Why did you have to go? Why did you have to go?”
The man felt really sad for the suffering, so he went near him and asked, “Sir, I am sorry, was it your wife?”
The man replied, “No. It is her first husband.”
(Loud laughter!)
Relationships turn out to be a trauma because of a sheer mismatch between one’s own imagination and reality. Still worse, people move from one relationship to another thinking that the next one is going to match their imagination. They go with it for sometime and find out that there is something lacking there also and move onto the next. It never occurs to them that the lacking is actually because of their own imagination and that there is nothing wrong with the other person.
They are so settled in their imaginative world that reality seems like imagination to them! I tell you, this is the starting point of trouble for us. The day we start living in the present, that day we will start experiencing joy; that day we will discover that we were under such heavy doses of imagination all along.
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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.