Ask The Master: 17 Nov 2007

Q. Without possessiveness, enforced loyalty and such things, won’t relationships degenerate into what is known as ‘free love’ or ‘free sex’?

No. On the contrary, the exact opposite happens. It is the existence of possessiveness which results in free sex. When love is given and received through the intellect, it results in deep dissatisfaction. No matter how hard you repress it, free sex will flourish as long as people keep looking for a better bargain. Love like this can never aspire towards spirituality or even beauty; it can only result in strategy, exploitation and frustration.

When love is directed through the emotions, one experiences a sense of fulfillment with one partner itself. There is no longer any need to look outside for any satisfaction. The ‘free’ of ‘free sex’ disappears, and only ‘sex’ remains!

And ultimately, when love becomes an outpouring of the being, the word ‘sex’ itself disappears. One experiences tremendous satisfaction even without the other. There is such compete self-sufficiency that there is no longer any need for sex!

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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Uncommon Answers to Common Questions