A small story:
One man was a painter by profession.
He was telling his friend, “You know, one day one girl walked in with a chip that was a kind of blue-black colour and wanted me to paint a model house with the same color. I thought I would give up my profession in trying to match it. Nothing seemed to satisfy her.”
The friend asked, “Did you finally match it?”
He replied, “I was lucky. She got a call on her mobile phone and I quickly painted the chip while she was talking!”
(Laughter!)
All through the day, in every home, just listen carefully to the husband and wife talking to each other, and you can hear the chiseling going on. I think that for marriages, we can gift a chisel and hammer instead of the sacred thread or wedding ring!
Another small story:
One man and his friend were having a cup of tea together one evening.
The man told his friend, “I am planning to divorce my wife. She has not spoken one word to me in the past 6 months.”
The friend said, “Think carefully before taking any such decision. You won’t get another wife like that.”
(Loud laughter!)
In Life, we are constantly trying to match the images inside us with reality outside. We will never find a perfect match. We need to drop these images inside us and we will find endless possibilities!
If you are unmarried, drop your fantasies so that you can choose your life partner and not a dream partner. When you select a person, just remind yourself that you are going to be spending your entire life with him, not just a few months. Don’t think of it as just a fling. It is a life long matter.
As of now, any black jeans or blue T-shirt will fall within your fantasy world and you will be attracted to it. But understand that the black or blue will fade away in just six months’ time!
If you are already married, drop your fantasies; only then can you start a real relationship with anybody. If you enter itself with a chisel and hammer, a real relationship cannot happen.
You see: What happens in chiseling is, you start chiseling and when you think that you have finished chiseling, your imagination has changed; it has become something different and so you have to do more chiseling to match the slightly changed imagination! This becomes a never-ending cycle.
A relationship can never happen as long as you have fantasies. Even if you stay for twenty-four hours in the same house, you don’t look into the other’s eyes, because you live with fantasy and not reality. You don’t actually live with the real person. You see all that the other person does through your imagination and conclude that your life is a punishment to you from God.
If you are unmarried, drop your fantasies and your blood will cool down; you will not be under hormonal torture. If you are a widower, drop your imagination and you will not suffer the pain of loneliness.
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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.
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