Words from the Master

I tell you: When you derive your Energy from outside, it can simply play havoc on you. You just become a puppet.

Let me tell you a story. It is actually an experiment that was conducted in the Chicago University:

A young, healthy and intelligent man wakes up and gets ready to go to work.
His wife looks at him and tells him, “You are looking tired; are you alright?”
He feels irritated by her comment and tells her to stop imagining things and leaves.
As he takes his car out of the garage, his neighbor is watching him and shouts out, “Are you feeling well? You look out of sorts!”
The man is surprised this time but tells him that he is alright and drives out.
He reaches his office and as he walks in, the receptionist looks at him with concern and says, “Sir, you look ill! Why did you come to work?”
The man replies, “Well, I think I am fine. Let’s see…. And he goes to his cabin.”
He starts to work and a colleague enters and exclaims, “Hey! you look awful. What’s the matter? You have fever or something?”
Now, this is too much for the man. He begins to feel uneasy and sick.
Just then his boss calls him and he goes in.
The boss takes one look at him and says, “You look really unwell. Are you sure you can carry on today? Why don’t you go see the Doctor?”
The young man has had enough. He feels positively ill now; he says he would like to go home, and leaves.
As he drives home in his car, he feels like his temperature is rising.
When he reaches home, his wife is surprised to see him back. She reaches out and touches his forehead and finds that he has temperature!

A man who was healthy and happy in the morning became actually sick by afternoon! And how did he become sick? Just by people telling him that he was sick! The people were set up to tell him the same thing again and again. And what happened? He actually fell sick. This experiment was conducted on 11 people and all the 11 people fell sick at the end of it.

This is what happens when you are not centered in your own Energy that is inside you. You will simply move from a high to a low just because of the influences from outside. When we become centered in us, nothing outside can shake us.

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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.

Words from the Master

A small story:

A lady once went shopping with her husband.
She wanted to buy a coat for herself.
They visited many shops but she could not find what she wanted.
The husband became tired. He asked, “Dear, do you know the exact kind of coat you want to buy?”
The wife replied, “Of course dear! I am looking for a drop-dead coat.”
The husband could not understand what she meant. He asked, “What is a drop-dead coat, dear?”
She replied, “When people see it, they will drop dead!”

(Loud laughter!)

We are all the time looking to see how we can collect certificates from people! Every action of ours is unconsciously related to what people will say to it; how people will react to it.

For example, a bag may come reasonably within your budget and it may have a lot of utility value also. But unconsciously, your mind will visualize you holding that bag and what others will think when they see you with it; then you decide that it is not good enough for others to see you holding it. You start choosing again! But you will not agree that you are searching for certificates, because it is an unconscious process in you!

We become almost like a centipede. A centipede needs 100 legs to walk. Like that, we need the synchronous approval of everyone for us to walk in life. What happens if even one leg of the centipede is not alright? It will be stranded where it is. What happens to us when even one approval fails to be got? We fall into depression.

If we are so dependent on others, there is every possibility that we will fall into depression. People who suffer from depression are actually suffering from attention-need. Over time, something happens, they don’t get enough attention and they are not capable of handling it. Just one word is enough to put us into depression. But we don’t know the real reason for our depression. So what do we do? We start taking medicines to cure it.

How will it heal? The cause for the depression is inside you and you look at medicines for help. When people come to me with depression, I tell them to do the simple Mahamantra meditation to start with and tell them that slowly, we will stop the medicines.

You see, these people need to be shown that their Energy source lies within them. And meditation can show them that.

Depending on the sincerity with which they do the meditation, they can simply harness the Energy inside them and come out of depression. Medicines will dull them even more. This needs to be understood.

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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.

Words from the Master

When you are dependent on external sources for energy, it only means that you are psychologically handicapped. When you need physical support, you are physically handicapped. When you need psychological support, you are psychologically handicapped, that’s all.

With physical handicap, you know that you are handicapped because you can see it clearly, but with psychological handicap, you don’t even know that you are handicapped. You are not even aware of it. When you are not aware of it, you will not know the consequences that it can give rise to. When the consequences or dis-ease happens, you will wonder what the reasons are.

If you have seen children play, you might have seen them building castles with cards. They will place the cards at a certain angle to each other and build several layers of such patterns in a pyramid shape. It will be beautiful to look at. But if you remove even one card from the castle, from anywhere, the whole castle will collapse! The higher the castle, the more the chances of collapsing.

Just like this, we build our own self-image like a castle, out of people’s opinions of us. We collect certificates or signatures from our father, mother, boyfriend, girlfriend, teacher, friends and what not, and arrange all these certificates and signatures and build a castle to form our self-image. The image will look beautiful and we will feel happy.

But if even one person withdraws their certificate or strikes out their signature, what happens? The castle collapses! You start feeling miserable about yourself. You feel depressed. You feel that the whole world has come to an end.

You see, at least in the case of the children, they build their castles with their own cards. But we build our castles with others’ cards, with others’ certificates! We don’t have control over the castle because it is built with other people’s certificates!

So what do we do? We start working hard in maintaining the castle; in guarding it well. We start behaving in such a way so that people don’t remove their certificates or signature. We start doing things to get their continuous approval, because their approval becomes our bread and butter.

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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.

Words from the Master

Why do we bother so much about others’ opinions about us? Why can’t we judge ourselves by our own strength and continue to do our work? Why are we deriving strength from others? All this is because of two things: One, we don’t know anything about ourselves. We know ourselves only through others’ opinions of us, only through others’ certificates. Second: When others give us their approval and attention, they are actually giving us Energy to move on. Attention IS energy! That is why we feel so boosted when they give us attention.

Attention in any form is alright for us. In most of the houses, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be constantly fighting with each other. They will be constantly complaining about each other to the poor man, the son or the husband. But for a few days, if one of them goes out of town, what happens? The other starts missing them! Although they are fighting all the time, they miss each other when they are not together!

Why does this happen? When they fight with each other all the time, they are actually getting that much of attention upon themselves from the other person! Don’t think that only positive attention is energizing! Any form of attention is energizing. Both of them subconsciously enjoy the attention that they get from the other when they fight; that is why they miss each other; they actually miss the attention! But when they start missing each other, they term it as love! They say that they miss each other because of love.

Of course, it is perfectly possible; but I want you to understand, that attention is nothing but energy, which keeps us in good spirit. It is a subtle form of energizing ourselves, and we are not aware of this. See understand: When we need something, that something is not love; it is attention. You don’t need love; you are love yourself. So when you say that you need love, when you say that you need to be loved, you are really in need of attention, not love.

People come and tell me that their sons and daughters do not love them enough in their old age. What they really mean is, that their sons and daughters are not giving them the attention, the energy that they need in their old age.

Actually if you see, as we grow older, we should become more and more centered within ourselves out of growing sensitivity to the Existential Energy inside us. But what happens is, because we have been dependent on others for attention and energy all our lives, because the love that we know exists only in relationships, because we have lived with no awareness and sensitivity to what is inside us, when we get older, we start missing the love that came from outside or the attention that came from outside. Your family becomes busy with other things and they don’t interact with you as they used to. So you start complaining with age.

You are actually complaining because even with your so-called experience of life, you have not understood and you don’t have the awareness that your Energy source lies within you and not anywhere outside. That is why, with age, instead of living life with more joy and energy, you live life with reduced energy. Your energy source, that is the people around you no more give the kind of energy they gave earlier.

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This excerpt has been taken from the book: Guaranteed Solutions.