Thirty years of marriage and his nagging wife was dying. The husband was sitting in the room quietly surrounded by relatives. A close uncle caught his hand consolingly and said, "Don't let yourself suffer, you have tried your best." Husband quietly replied, "I've suffered thirty years. I can suffer a few more hours."
Life is not about making the other the right person, it is about becoming the right person. If this is understood, there will not be any suffering.